“Your fear shouldn’t be doing “it”, it should be not doing it.” – unknown

We all have a filter; our lens, that guides how we see, feel and act.

Why does the scraping sound of a fork across a metal plate make you cringe yet the person next to you barely noticed?

Why do you find Chris Hemsworth attractive but your best friend doesn’t?

Why is eating nut butter out of a jar in your underwear a secret single behaviour for some while others couldn’t care less about it being a public display?

Each and every person sees the world differently because of we all put our own lens across reality. It’s a projector screen that is showing us a second story running side-by-side with the one we are watching – I want to thank Jim Carrey for that last line, he says some good shit sometimes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=80yu3M1b7NU.

Being aware of our filter and judging whether it is working in our favour or not can provide us all with the kind of insight that will provoke a series of actions that help to shape our life in a snowball effect.

Rather than only listening to what you want to hear, you may need to begin listening to what you don’t want to hear to get to where you need to be. Be prepared to be called-out on your bullshit, hold your head high. Accepting your faults is accepting who you are in that moment and acknowledging areas for improvement – this takes courage to do this rather than showing weakness. Constantly adapt and change, it’s okay to let others know they had an effect on you and their opinion may have influenced yours.

A self-destructive behaviour I used to have was I used selective attention when it came to any form of added weight training. I didn’t want to hear about the benefits of heavy lifting (I know!) because that would be admitting that it’s something new I could try and that my current method wasn’t perfect. My ego was getting in the way of my growth. Once I opened myself up to the possibility of being wrong, about anything really, is honestly the only point in my life when any real change started to take place.