Tag: healthy mindset

Be aware of your filter

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“Your fear shouldn’t be doing “it”, it should be not doing it.” – unknown

We all have a filter; our lens, that guides how we see, feel and act.

Why does the scraping sound of a fork across a metal plate make you cringe yet the person next to you barely noticed?

Why do you find Chris Hemsworth attractive but your best friend doesn’t?

Why is eating nut butter out of a jar in your underwear a secret single behaviour for some while others couldn’t care less about it being a public display?

Each and every person sees the world differently because of we all put our own lens across reality. It’s a projector screen that is showing us a second story running side-by-side with the one we are watching – I want to thank Jim Carrey for that last line, he says some good shit sometimes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=80yu3M1b7NU.

Being aware of our filter and judging whether it is working in our favour or not can provide us all with the kind of insight that will provoke a series of actions that help to shape our life in a snowball effect.

Rather than only listening to what you want to hear, you may need to begin listening to what you don’t want to hear to get to where you need to be. Be prepared to be called-out on your bullshit, hold your head high. Accepting your faults is accepting who you are in that moment and acknowledging areas for improvement – this takes courage to do this rather than showing weakness. Constantly adapt and change, it’s okay to let others know they had an effect on you and their opinion may have influenced yours.

A self-destructive behaviour I used to have was I used selective attention when it came to any form of added weight training. I didn’t want to hear about the benefits of heavy lifting (I know!) because that would be admitting that it’s something new I could try and that my current method wasn’t perfect. My ego was getting in the way of my growth. Once I opened myself up to the possibility of being wrong, about anything really, is honestly the only point in my life when any real change started to take place.

 

Is obsession constructive?

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“Kindness is a language the deaf can hear and the blind can see” – Mark Twain

Notice the types of thoughts you are having, are they negative? Are they obsessive? Are they focused primarily on the end game? Isn’t it funny how we kind of thrive off the obsession but then when we seem to be making noticeable progress a part of us withdrawals and suddenly we have an urge to eat a bag of maltesers?

It’s very common for people to have a threshold for “feeling good”. Most of us have spent the majority of our lives working towards a goal and not sitting in the space of having achieved what we set out to achieve. Occasionally we might be feeling so good it’s almost like we can’t take it for long periods of time because it’s so uncomfortable and unfamiliar and this is generally when self-sabotage begins i.e binge eating, excessive drinking, eating food you know you’re intolerant to. Generally these feelings have very complex reasons attached to them and I won’t go into them here. But as a result, we can’t handle our “feel good threshold” because we feel like it’s going to crash down around us at some point so we self-sabotage to get in there before it does to feel in control / safe again. It is here that you need to remind yourself that you now have years of experience and a whole lot of new things in your life that will protect you that you didn’t have before. Try and hang in the space of feeling uncomfortable and learn to breathe into your new life and focus on the experience rather than being in your head and getting controlled by your triggers. Increase your “I can have this” level and allow yourself to feel like you deserve it.

Take the reins and saw as high as you can and stop war-ing on your body.

Goal weight: Sexy AF